With over 1 million words in the English language, as suggested by Merriam-Webster, each word carries its own unique power. Some words inspire action, while others create hesitation. Imagine if changing just one word in your vocabulary could transform how you feel, how you visualise your goals, and how you behave.
What would that word be?
I recently asked a friend this very question. After some thought, she said, “trying.” Curious, I asked her why. She explained that “trying” feels like an excuse to stay in limbo – it’s neither committing nor achieving. And she was right.
The Mindset Shift: From “Trying” to “I Am”
The way we process language has a profound impact on our unconscious mind, which plays a key role in shaping our actions and beliefs. According to principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), the words we use not only reflect our thoughts but also influence how we visualise outcomes and behave.
When you say, “I’m trying,” your unconscious mind interprets this as an ongoing process – something you’re attempting but haven’t yet committed to. It keeps you in the “trying” phase rather than pushing you into action. In contrast, when you say, “I am,” you’re sending a clear message to your brain that you are already in the process of achieving your goal. This small linguistic shift can activate your mind to focus on the actions needed to succeed, instead of lingering in uncertainty.
Here’s how it works in practice:
“I’m trying to lose weight” becomes “I am losing weight.”
This change shifts your focus to the actions you’re taking – choosing healthier meals, exercising regularly, rather than the effort itself.
“I’m trying to get a new job” becomes “I am taking action to further my career opportunities.”
Now, you’re actively updating your CV, networking, and applying for roles rather than just thinking about it.
“I’m trying to be more confident” becomes “I am gaining in confidence every day.”
By framing it as a current process, you encourage yourself to take small steps, like speaking up in meetings or practicing self-affirmations.
Why It Works: The Science of Visualisation and Action
NLP teaches us that the language we use influences how we visualise our goals. When you say “I am,” your brain begins to create a mental picture of success. This visualisation triggers a feedback loop: the clearer the mental image, the more motivated you feel, and the more likely you are to take action.
On the other hand, “trying” creates a vague image – one where you’re stuck in the effort phase without clear progress. Your unconscious mind accepts this as your reality, and your actions (or lack thereof) follow suit.
This principle applies not only to goals but also to how we view ourselves. For instance:
“I’m sorry” can often be replaced with “Thank you.”
Instead of apologising unnecessarily, show gratitude:
“I’m sorry for being late” → “Thank you for waiting for me.”
“I’m sorry for the mistake” → “Thank you for your patience as I fix this.”
This subtle shift reframes the situation positively, empowering both you and the other person.
The Bigger Picture: Language Shapes Reality
Changing one word in your vocabulary might seem small, but it can have a ripple effect across every area of your life. It changes the energy you bring to a situation, your level of commitment, and even how others perceive you.
What if you could reframe your language to feel differently about challenges, relationships, or goals? Instead of “I can’t,” try “I haven’t yet.” Instead of “I should,” say “I choose to.”